There is nothing more beautiful to me than friendship.
Growing up I have really learnt it isn’t about quantity its about quality. 5 solid friends are a million times better than 100 fake ones.
Friendship to me is having people that are loyal, loving and caring. Friends that want to be around you and actually care about what’s happening in your life. Friends that will laugh with you, cry with you and do stupid things that only friends can do.
For a few years throughout high school I had a very very close Best friend. We did absolutely everything together, we lived close so it was always easy to hang out all the time. At the time I thought this was a really normal and happy friendship until I felt like I couldn’t be my own person without this friend putting me down or copying every single thing I did. I felt like I was really starting to loose myself because of all the negativity surrounding the friendship. It wasn’t until my last year of high school that I completely cut ties with this person because of some really awful and hurtful things that were said and done. I began focussing on healthy friendships. I can honestly say doing this has been one of the greatest things I could have done for myself, Ive grown from an experience of someone treating me like utter shit and moved into a place of self love and happiness.
In most cases I hear so many girls speak of this one “friend” and it really saddens me because 9 time out of 10 they are being treated the same way I was. Most of the time girls like this will be very self centred and manipulative, the friendship will mainly be about them and everything they are dealing with and your accomplishments or your problems will get fobbed off. Let me make it super clear to everyone, if you have someone in your life that is constantly bringing you down, hindering your happiness and stunting your growth in this beautiful world, leave the friendship. Nothing absolutely nothing is worth someone else bringing you down and making you feel worthless. There are so many people in this world and so many better friends that you can surround yourself and have fun with.
For too long I stayed in a toxic friendship. I look and see all the incredibly beautiful, caring and loving friends I have now and realise how truly blessed I am to have them. I may not have hundreds of friends but I have real ones and I hope the when they read this they know exactly who they are and how much I value and love them.
Post by: Bethany Calverley.