I have had a stirring in my heart to write about body positivity yet again. Surprise, surprise!
Earlier last week I was scrolling through my Instagram and I became quite irritated. The more I scrolled the fire bubbling up in my belly became stronger and stronger. I sat shaking my head, thinking how truly disgusting society can be.
These days, Instagram is full of Women in bikinis, diets, workout routines. You know how it goes… and for what?
Why are we so desperate to keep up with the next “in” trend of a body type. Do you understand how much that irks me? And how sad it is that A Woman’s body type has become a trend!!!!!
Think back a few years ago… What “body goals” were women trying to achieve? Petite bodies with a thigh gap.
What is it now? Small boobs to prance around in a little bralette, a tiny waste and a big butt.
I have been watching women work them selves to the ground just to achieve these results. What are they really going to gain from it though? Validation and acceptance of themselves because in societies standards they are “Beautiful”.
As women we should be spending more time in community, empowering each other to embrace OUR own individual body type.
As you know I am a Christian and I have grown up in church. I often come back to this bible verse. Psalm 139:14 – I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
In the Christian world it is such a well known/ used verse that it can become repetitive and easily overlooked. I am here to drill this verse into your being like there is no tomorrow. When you actually sit down and take this verse in, it’s life changing. YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made by the creator of the universe. He made you as an individual. You are your own person and you are the only person in the world with your exact body type. How do we not see that as the coolest thing ever and why the heck are we not embracing that more?
Recently, I have had an incredible awakening in my personal journey of body image and after a lot of prayer, seeking, crying and self hate I have experienced healing in a way that I never have before.
I am able to write of the body trends above because that was me not too long ago, trying to seek acceptance in all the wrong places from all the wrong people.
I was ashamed of my body, the way I looked and who I was as an individual. My journey has been very up and down. I have battled through issues and habits in regard to obsessive eating, exercising and fixating on numbers that I didn’t even realise was happening because it was so normal to me. I speak a lot more in depth about this in the book I am writing.
When I was in my mid teens I killed for “the dream body”. I wanted to be skinny, I wanted a thigh gap. I wish my 21 year old self was there to tell me that would never be achievable for me. Not in a harsh way but in a place of love. You see, that would never be achievable for me because that’s not my individual body type, that’s not how God created me. I am a curvy girl with thick thighs. I get that now, I accept that and FINALLY, I am embracing that.
Just the other week I was sitting down eating some food and my last bit of the meal fell into my lap because my thighs were touching. If I looked down and saw that about 6 months ago I would have been so ashamed of my body but you best believe I was praising the Lord for my thick thighs! I picked my food up and I finished that last bite with complete satisfaction.
Every body type IS beautiful.
If you have freckles, You’re beautiful.
If you have a thigh gap, You’re beautiful.
If you don’t have a thigh gap, you’re beautiful.
If you have a bit of a chubby belly, You’re beautiful. (I love choccy too much and I’m rocking it)
If you have a flat stomach, you’re beautiful.
If you are tall, you’re beautiful.
If you are short, you’re beautiful.
Self acceptance comes when you beat the mental battle the enemy is forever trying to win against you!
Wearing a skimpy little bikini that covers next to nothing just for you to gain a little bit of attention isn’t going to make you happy. The boy that just “liked” your last Insta picture isn’t going to make you happy. Posting a body photo when your sucking in your stomach to the point of struggling to breathe and sticking your butt out to make yourself look smaller isn’t going to make you happy. Can most of us just admit that we’ve been there at some stage?
I encourage you to try your very best to honour your body. It is so so precious. Looking back I wish I cared for and valued my self and my body as much as I do now. Embrace who you are and do things to nourish yourself the right and healthy way. Stop trying to seek the approval of others to validate your self acceptance and stop playing the comparison game. As soon as you start to compare yourself to others you are allowing complete negative thoughts to grow and that in itself is a really dangerous place to be in.
Your worth isn’t found in a number on the scales, it’s not defined by toxic words people say to you, it’s not placed by how many followers you have or how revealing your posts are, it’s not shaped by a false image we have been led to believe by societies standards. It is found in the very essence of your being – Your heart!
I know that I am no where near where I want to be but because I am finally starting to see myself the way Jesus see’s me and I am spending time filling myself with his truths about me, I have found contentment. It’s crazy, amazing and all things wonderful!
There is only one place you are going to find complete contentment and real self acceptance. Go search, I dare you!